·Fear of success
The most overused reason for someone not realizing their fullest potential is the "fear of success." This includes being afraid of responsibility that comes with accomplishment, becoming alienated, standing out and more. There is a certain feeling of comfort and safety when you travel within the pack and stay unnoticed. You've heard the sayings about breaking out of your comfort zone and it certainly applies here. Some of things my clients have found helpful in overcoming this obstacle is having a good support system, and persistent focus on the advantages of becoming successful.
有些人之所以并没能发挥出自己的全部潜力，最常见的原因就是他们“惧怕成功”，其中包括害怕成就所带来的责任、害怕被人疏远、害怕鹤立鸡群等。当你默默无闻地处于某个固定的圈子里，久而久之便会有一种安全舒适的感觉。你也听过“走出自己的心理舒适区”这种说法吧，就是这个道理。我的客户发现 -- 得到他人有力的支持、坚持着重关注成功的有利因素 -- 能帮助人们克服这个障碍。
Change is tough. In 'Coaching 101' the first thing we learned is that change is literally painful. I like to use working out as an example here. If you go to the gym and lift the same easy amount of weight for a year, you likely will not see much (or any) payoff. However, if you progressively lift to you're maximum potential and challenge yourself by working harder with more weight or reps, you will see better results. The difficulties and "heavy lifting" we experience are temporary phases. As you work through them, you become wiser, stronger and more courageous.
Those reactive antagonistic thoughts! Maybe it's the unfavorable beliefs instilled in us from outside sources, fear of embarrassment, or plain ol' habit. Pessimistic outlooks are frenemies. They are there to protect us but they're also prohibiting us from greater fulfillment. Sometimes we are acutely aware of our thoughts and other times they are so sneaky we barely notice. I've said this time and time again- pay close attention to what you are thinking, address the negatives and accentuate the productive thoughts.
·The pursuit of perfection
It's very common to be afraid of failing, particularly noticeable failures because you might be at risk of tacking on embarrassment to that rotten experience. As a coach, I obviously want to point out how many times you win everyday, butt think of how many blunders you encounter daily -- perhaps missing a bus, dropping something, spilling a drink, etc. We experience many tiny misses everyday and probably don't dwell on them because they're unimportant, justifiable, unnoticeable or fixable. If you miss the bus, you catch the next one. If you drop something, you pick it up.
害怕失败很正常，尤其是严重的失败，因为你可能会往这段糟糕的经历中增加点“尴尬”。作为一名教练，当然我想要强调你每天赢了多少次，但想一想你每天的失误 -- 可能是错过了公交、掉了某件东西，撒了一杯饮料等等。我们每一天都会犯些小错误，但是可能并不会细想，因为这些事情实在太无关紧要、太正常不过、太不起眼，而且可以被改正。如果你错过了这辆公交车，你可以等下一辆；如果你掉了某件东西，你可以捡起来。
Self-sabotage can sometimes be deep-rooted and require outside support such as therapy; or coaching if it's more habitual. It may be arduous but with intent and determination you can overcome self-sabotage and attain success!
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