双语阅读 | 战胜自己:远离4种自我摧残

作者:新动态国际英语 发表时间 :2019-01-23 15:32:04 浏览:96

有时候,我们自己才是自己最大的敌人。想要进步,就一定要打败自己心里的小怪兽!小编这就帮你战胜下面这些可怕的心魔,让你嗨起来!

 

·Fear of success

惧怕成功

The most overused reason for someone not realizing their fullest potential is the "fear of success." This includes being afraid of responsibility that comes with accomplishment, becoming alienated, standing out and more. There is a certain feeling of comfort and safety when you travel within the pack and stay unnoticed. You've heard the sayings about breaking out of your comfort zone and it certainly applies here. Some of things my clients have found helpful in overcoming this obstacle is having a good support system, and persistent focus on the advantages of becoming successful.

 

有些人之所以并没能发挥出自己的全部潜力,最常见的原因就是他们惧怕成功,其中包括害怕成就所带来的责任、害怕被人疏远、害怕鹤立鸡群等。当你默默无闻地处于某个固定的圈子里,久而久之便会有一种安全舒适的感觉。你也听过走出自己的心理舒适区这种说法吧,就是这个道理。我的客户发现 -- 得到他人有力的支持、坚持着重关注成功的有利因素 -- 能帮助人们克服这个障碍。 

 

·Hard work

努力工作

Change is tough. In 'Coaching 101' the first thing we learned is that change is literally painful. I like to use working out as an example here. If you go to the gym and lift the same easy amount of weight for a year, you likely will not see much (or any) payoff. However, if you progressively lift to you're maximum potential and challenge yourself by working harder with more weight or reps, you will see better results. The difficulties and "heavy lifting" we experience are temporary phases. As you work through them, you become wiser, stronger and more courageous.

 

改变是很难的。在“Coaching101”体验教练培训课程中,我们学到的第一件事就是,改变真的很痛苦。在这里,我想要拿健身来举例。如果你每次去健身房都举同样容易的重量,那么一年下来可能收效甚微。然而,如果你循序渐进,将自己的潜力发挥到极致并通过增加举重量或运动量来挑战自己,这样你可能会看到更好的效果。我们所经历的困难以及举重只是暂时的阶段,当你走过这段经历,也将变得更聪明、更强大、更勇敢。 

 

·Contradicting yourself

自我矛盾

Those reactive antagonistic thoughts! Maybe it's the unfavorable beliefs instilled in us from outside sources, fear of embarrassment, or plain ol' habit. Pessimistic outlooks are frenemies. They are there to protect us but they're also prohibiting us from greater fulfillment. Sometimes we are acutely aware of our thoughts and other times they are so sneaky we barely notice. I've said this time and time again- pay close attention to what you are thinking, address the negatives and accentuate the productive thoughts.

 

那些互相对立的思想!也许这些不利思想是外部环境灌输给我们的、也许是源于对尴尬的恐惧或者只是简单的习惯。厌世观可谓亦敌亦友,在保护我们的同时也阻碍我们获得更大的成就。有时,我们对于自己的思想很敏锐;但有时,我们很少注意这些鬼鬼祟祟的想法。我已经反复说过多次:密切关注自己的思想,消化掉那些消极思想,助长积极思想。

 

·The pursuit of perfection

追求完美

It's very common to be afraid of failing, particularly noticeable failures because you might be at risk of tacking on embarrassment to that rotten experience. As a coach, I obviously want to point out how many times you win everyday, butt think of how many blunders you encounter daily -- perhaps missing a bus, dropping something, spilling a drink, etc. We experience many tiny misses everyday and probably don't dwell on them because they're unimportant, justifiable, unnoticeable or fixable. If you miss the bus, you catch the next one. If you drop something, you pick it up.

 

害怕失败很正常,尤其是严重的失败,因为你可能会往这段糟糕的经历中增加点尴尬。作为一名教练,当然我想要强调你每天赢了多少次,但想一想你每天的失误 -- 可能是错过了公交、掉了某件东西,撒了一杯饮料等等。我们每一天都会犯些小错误,但是可能并不会细想,因为这些事情实在太无关紧要、太正常不过、太不起眼,而且可以被改正。如果你错过了这辆公交车,你可以等下一辆;如果你掉了某件东西,你可以捡起来。

 

· 结语

Self-sabotage can sometimes be deep-rooted and require outside support such as therapy; or coaching if it's more habitual. It may be arduous but with intent and determination you can overcome self-sabotage and attain success!

 

自我破坏有时也可能会变成一种长期习惯,所以需要外界的支持,如心理治疗或辅导治疗(症状更加明显的情况下)。过程可能非常艰辛,但只要有决心,你一定能够克服自我破坏并且获得成功!

 

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